I am a feminist, loud and proud, because I am for a society where everyone is treated equally and I choose to work towards gender equality.
So what is gender equality? It’s simple. Everyone is equal and no one is treated differently just because of their gender.
This is where I find a problem when it comes to feminism in Nepal; when we say “Don’t treat differently,” what comes to mind immediately is, “Don’t suppress, don’t discriminate, don’t restrict, etc.”, but it can also mean “Don’t treat someone specially just because of their gender, don’t privilege someone just because of their gender”, right?
But then, no. We don’t want to lose the special treatment we get for being girls, we don’t want to lose the privilege we enjoy for being girls. We want to have them granted. We want to enjoy the freedom, the independence; we want to do whatever we want to do, but when it comes to responsibility that comes along with the freedom and liberty, when it comes to the consequences that come along with the choices made, we want to be protected, defended, treated ‘like a girl’: sympathetically, gently, dedicatedly, taken to a safe island and make to feel like nothing ever happened.
That’s what feminism movement from Nepal has been promoting. We want property rights, but we don’t like to talk about responsibility towards parents. We want reservations, but we don’t want to talk about liability. We want freedom to do anything and everything we want, but we want compensation if anything goes wrong because of our wrong choices.
That’s not what feminism is about. Feminism is an idea where females are treated as equal to males and ‘equal’ also means shares on bad and toughness.
We must tell our girls the harsh truth of life and still stand by them through all thicks and thins, fighting for equality, ready for responsibility, prepared for consequences to live one life, like humans learning through mistakes and growing through experiences.
That’s the kind of feminism I wish for Nepal.