It’s okay to be…
Just imagine you going through hardest phase of your life – confused, clueless, trapped, lost – you feel unfit, unwanted, that feeling of running away to go somewhere that no one would know you – just to hide from shame and guilt and what not all
And there comes someone saying, “it’s okay to be….”
And you feel so relieved.
Be that person in everyone’s life because everyone is battling some kind of battle that others have no clue about. They all need to hear once in a while from others, “it’s okay to be….”
When you feel hating yourself for not accomplishing much in life
When your mind go on thinking unstoppable
When you fear to eat as you wish
When you wonder if you are normal or not
When you are trying so hard to hide your emotions
When you are failing to connect
When you hate yourself for being indecisive
When you are tired of living up per others
When you want to ignore your reality
When you wonder if you are doing wrong
When you wish you were man enough
When you are hurt for being a joke
When you want to be carefree but hesitant
When you are embarrassed for not being top notch
When you are sad for not having a partner
Speak-Up: Say something to someone anonymously
Sometimes, reality can be too complicated, especially in a society where norms and standards are very defined based on traditional values and culture. This limits us from being straight forward to some people. Can limit us from being bold and honest and express our heart out without hesitation to certain people, especially if they are elder to us or someone with good social/financial status.
And sometimes we can’t express out, say what we need to say due to our own lack of confidence or low self esteem.
But then it’s very important to let them out and let the universe take them from there …. and miracle can happen, you never know. If nothing also, at least you will feel good; kind of sense of being relieved, sense of being in peace.
With all that thoughts, we have designed this speak-up section for you to speak your heart out anonymously. Fill the form below and leave the rest to us to play the universe.
p.s. Not to express your “romantic feeling” for your crush.
Breaking the taboo: Women are always touchable
Growing up with two sisters, mother and now a girlfriend I am surrounded by women all my life. The kindness, love and care shown by all of them is unrivaled by any other person that I ever encountered. When I was young my mother used to stop cooking me delicious meal for few days, every month. My small mind couldn’t understand the reason but since everyone taught me to accept things without questioning I accepted that fact too. Later on, as time passed by my sisters were considered untouchable for few days and mom herself told me it was the same with them. So I accepted that fact too.
Fifteen years fast forward, now I came to understand what actually happen to them during those days. Though I understood the biology, I still couldn’t question why because as aforementioned, I was taught to accept it. One day, my grandma came with a holy locket. Something called “Jantar” locally. It was supposed to protect me from “bad things” out there. I appreciate the gesture but she asked me something when handing it over. Not to my suprise, she said I wasn’t supposed to touch any woman, including my loved ones when they are in their periods. They were impure and I, one bearing the holy locket, can’t touch them.
Respecting elders, I took the locket from her and wore it. Months passed by I maintained the condition as she told me. I was sick, tired and caused all kinda trouble for my sisters, mother and girlfriend too. I am grateful they never complained. But, something struck me when my girlfriend had her period in college. As an engineering student, women are rare in college and apparently she was alone in class. She had some serious cramps and was visually in pain that day. No female friend to turn to, she called me in and as I got there I saw her in pain with watery eyes and embarrassed face. All month even for smallest of my trouble she was there for me, and those four days when she suffering for something natural I wasn’t supposed to help her cause someone taught me so. The moment had a significant impact on the teaching I received. It forced me to review what I had learned growing up.
I took my locket off, and helped my girl get home. When I got back home, I asked my mom again, and this time I questioned “Why can’t I hand my sisters water when they are in period? They take care of my smallest of needs all month and four days when they are crying why am I not supposed to help?” My mom replied, “we just have too.” That’s when I said to my mom, “Alrite, I reject that completely but since my grandma can’t, I will take off my locket whenever they are considered untouchable but I won’t stop helping them when they are most in need.” Mom smiled and agreed, “Hope, things will change for you guys.”
We were taught to accept the patriarchal built up of the society and not question it at all. Somehow every one of us “educated” population still agrees to it and accepts the flaws in it. The change starts from us, we know it. Just an initiative is required. My taking off of the locket wasn’t meant as a disrespect for my culture tradition or my grandma. It was just my love over people who actually matter is much more important than things that stop me from helping them.
Photo Comments: My Dog
Meet the dogs from Kmag Community. They are cute, funny, grumpy and smarty. All in one screen.
On Nov 7, 2019, we had asked Kmag Followers to share their dog’s pic under photocomment section, and we received the following pics. They are just so aww and cute and some are quite funny and grumpy. All in all, adorable collection. <3
Via Sushan Shrestha | Dog name: Momo
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