One of the best ways of maturing in relationship. Teaches couples real life lessons. Helps make financial decisions, emotional support, lesser misunderstandings.
But like always, its one side of the story.
Putting some light on western live-in relationship.
One not so talked about reason behind a live in relationship is, adults want privacy in their life at least from their parents. So, they move out of their parents home but they cannot afford to live alone. So, they find someone to live together. This is one big reality here in US.
Another reality is, men don’t want to get married quick like in Nepal because after marriage they are accountable for lot of things legally. So, legal issues is another big reason. 1 of every 4 men is a domestic violence victim in US. (Of course there are women victims like in Nepal too).
Another common reason is: They are in a relationship but do not have money to get married. Since a vast number of people here live by paycheck to paycheck. They don’t really have money to get married. So they live together and have kids. If they are able to save money in future, they get married or else life just goes on like that.
From parents side, many parents want their kids to leave their home when they turn 18, they parents want privacy too. So kids find someone they like, find a place n live together (again because they cannot afford to stay alone even if they want to).
That’s one reason kids and parents do not have family bonding like we have in Nepal.
We are already subconsciously fed with the idea that live in relationships are not good ..
But I guess we are adjusting to globalization and we are accepting fact,it’s not that bad … it depends on how strongly and maturely you can contribute.. because if it’s about our society and now, live in relationships here is tougher than any other parts in the world.
If you are talking about culture, traditional and religion. One thing I want to ask: wasn’t lord Krishna and Radha were in a live in relationship?? They didn’t get married but their relationship is consider as “pavitra” and people worshiped them.
In my view, it’s the most appropriate thing to do… Rather than jumping in commitment .. One can always understand the compatibility between each other, and then make a wise decision for the future. But again, we all have different perspective to stuffs and the society we live in doesn’t support it as much.
In my opinion, as long as the couple is ready to bear the consequences and take responsibilities of whatever might come up, its okay. I personally don’t like it though.
Live-in relationship will teach you ‘Why emotional/intellect attachment is really more important than physical attachment.
The initiation of such culture in our society is hard or simply unacceptable. It’s a taboo I think but an important topic to be raised and discussed among youth. No one can understand other in few hours and days and it’s a life changing issue to spend or live whole life with anyone. And hopefully less work at court, to file and take action in divorce case as well as dowry too.
I just wanna ask will you marry a girl/boy if you know she/he had live in relationship and later they parted??There is no problem in live in relationship but for us to accept,many cultural n traditional and social norms should be changed..Western nations are developed and rich but that doesn’t mean their culture is also good..Globalization doesn’t only mean adopting their life style culture or dressing sense,,will we all adopt their work culture??we don’t see how hard they work for 5 days..and just see how they enjoy weekends!!! Personally,our society still hasn’t evolved so much to accept live in relationship..It’s like demo version before buying full version.
In my view its totally cool to be in a live-in relationship here in Nepal too. Its a perspective tbf. If we stop thinking about what others think about us then yes we are living a truly meaningful life with our partner. This keeps us free to explore the utmost bond of relationship with our partner and more focused on our goals.
The above answers on the question were collected from our Facebook page, Kaagmandu Magazine. For more answers you can visit the post HERE. Also, you can add your comments there. Best comments get published here.
World in Lenses
We had asked Kmag followers to submit photos taken by them through their mobile and this is part of the collection.
On July 26, 2019, we asked KMag followers to share their mobile photography and we received many astonishing photos, out of which we selected the following photos.
Scrolling through these photos, it feels like tripping the human world through different lives and places. Try viewing this post from your PC for better experience.
Aren’t they amazing? Did it feel like tripping? Which one is your favorite? Drop a comment below.
If you too want to show your photography skill, CLICK HERE, and post a pic taken by you.
Travel Story: Flying across the Malaysian Sky
On 2015, January 23, we were about to board for the very flight which would change our entire life for the years to come. The sheer joy of new excitement and hard goodbyes to our families were still clouded while we were waiting for our flight.
We had our flight from Air Asia with 80 minutes transit in the airport of Malaysia. With all our fellow Nepalese brothers heading to gulf countries, we were the only one going to Australia. But none of us knew, even though the countries are different, we were about to fall into the same fate of labour.
There was a guy with his “Dillibazar Tailoring” as his backpack resting down at his feet. A pang of frustration had actually started in me already why remittance is the only major source of economy in my country.
After about two hours, right when air hostesses started checking boarding pass for the flight lunch, one of the Nepalese guys started acting strange. At first, he was talking with the air hostess, tapping his pants all over around. But soon he started checking all the hand carries rested at the top of the passengers. My husband said he could be that one of the agent bringing workers in overseas and he added he is faking to his companions as though he had boarding pass for the lunch. I gave my quick glance to the guy with that shopping bag and to that supposed agent guy.
Relying on the quick judgement of my husband, I noticed that guy with a golden ring and think chain around his neck and silver watch, indeed he was fairly dressed than other people on board. He frantically searched almost all the luggage of his clients for like fifteen minutes. Clearly, it seemed like he was just pretending it with a promise that he had had actually boarding pass for lunch to be served. Rest of the brothers were silent and were staring in each other doubting if they are getting it. Eventually, he gave up with the request of air-hostess to get back to the seat for trolleys to be run.
After 15minutes our meal arrived, and it made me partly awkward to be only passengers on a row with lunch being served especially when my fellow native brothers went on curious as air hostesses started dragging down the food trolleys.
It was almost 8:38 PM when we landed into the Malaysian Airport. We had barely 80 minutes of transit.Though there were no words of goodbyes among us, we parted our ways. We were anxiously queueing in the line when I noticed another fellow with all of his backpacks and luggage was standing after me. My husband casually told him, ” yo line Hami Australia janeharuko go, tapaiko yah bata hoina justo lagyo”
Shocked and terrified, we pointed the direction where his group headed where he quickly ran to catch them. And we ran through the corridor of Malaysian Airline for one last time to change the fate of our promised life after that flight…
Is it right or wrong?
Some people on social media are not not happy to see alcoholic beverage sponsoring the traditional festival, that too with Kumari in display.
The voice was initially raised by Satish Sthapit, singer and guitarist from Newaz Band, through his facebook post, stating:
“Felt sad with this branding at Maru. Soon we will see branding in Kumari charriot too. Thukka”
The issue escalated quite quickly and now some others too are expressing their dissatisfaction. However, matter of fact is that locally-prepared alcoholic beverages have significant role in Newa culture, especially in festival like IndraJatra.
What’s your say on this? Is it right or wrong to get alcoholic beverage as sponsor of traditional event?
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